Counselor's Corner: Children and divorce
posted Thursday, November 15th, 2012 @ 12:00 pm

Why is it that some children of divorced parents seem to sail through life with no ill effects, while others struggle with every aspect of their lives? There are lots of theories on this subject, and society is quick to blame problems on the "broken home." In my years of working with children in schools, it is apparent that each child's level of resilience plays a big part in whether a divorce will have a lasting negative effect on his or her life.

Resilience, meaning the ability to "bounce back" from unpleasant events, needs to be a priority from the beginning of each child's life. Haven't we learned as adults that life is not fair, and we don't always get what we want? Depending on our personal beliefs, we know that life is easier if we can "go with the flow" or "take the bad with the good." As Harry Truman said, "When you're going through hell, keep going."
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